Why is My baby fighting sleep?
Common Reasons & Fixes
Few things feel as frustrating as a baby who just won’t sleep- even when they’re clearly tired. If your little one cries, squirms, or resists bedtime, you may wonder if you’re doing something wrong. The truth? Sleep resistance is common, normal, and often linked to developmental changes.
Understanding why it happens (and how to respond) can make nights calmer and less stressful for the whole family.
Understanding Sleep Resistance
Why babies resist (not “bad behavior”)
It’s important to know that your baby isn’t being “difficult.” Fighting sleep is not misbehavior, it’s a biological and developmental response. Babies often struggle to switch from awake time to rest because their brains and bodies are learning new skills and adjusting sleep cycles.
Developmental context
Sleep patterns change rapidly in the first years of life. Newborns sleep in short bursts, while older babies consolidate sleep into longer stretches. Each developmental leap can temporarily disrupt sleep, leading to resistance at nap time or bedtime.
Common Reasons Babies Fight Sleep
Overtiredness When awake windows are too long, babies become wired and struggle to settle.
Undertiredness On the flip side, if naps or bedtime are too early, your baby may not be ready for sleep.
Separation anxiety Around 6 to 18 months, babies become more aware of your absence and may protest sleep to keep you nearby.
Developmental leaps (rolling, crawling, walking) Learning new motor skills often keeps babies awake longer as their brains practice even in sleep.
Gentle Fixes to Try
Adjust nap timing
Follow age-appropriate wake windows to avoid both overtiredness and undertiredness. Small tweaks in schedule can make a big difference.
Introduce comfort objects
Once safe (usually after 12 months), a soft lovey or blanket can provide security and help ease separation anxiety.
Use soothing techniques without over-stimulation
Keep bedtime calming: dim lights, quiet voices, gentle rocking or patting. Avoid screens, bright lights, or too much play right before sleep.
When It’s a Phase vs. a Pattern
Signs it will pass
Your baby is hitting new milestones (like rolling or walking)
Resistance lasts only a few days to a couple of weeks
Sleep improves again on its own
Signs you need support
Sleep battles are daily and exhausting for weeks or months
Your baby’s lack of sleep affects feeding, growth, or mood
You feel overwhelmed and unsure how to fix it
How a Sleep Consultant Can Help
If sleep resistance feels never-ending, professional support can help. A baby sleep consultant creates a customized plan tailored to your child’s age, temperament, and your family’s lifestyle. With step-by-step strategies, you can reduce resistance and help your baby learn to fall asleep peacefully.
Struggling with constant sleep battles? Book a discovery call today and get expert guidance for calmer nights.